Thoughts & Ideas

    • Together – let’s not let the Corona Virus take us down

      It would not be true to let anyone believe that just because I am psychotherapist I have mastered fear and anxiety in all situations. Like many, I am feeling an under current of anxiety, as the world around me feels more unstable than I have ever known it as an …Read More
    • What is EMDR

      As a therapist most of my clients develop a cognitive understanding of the roots of their unhappiness. In some cases this is the solution they have been looking for, but in some cases, part of the affective element of their initial problem has remained. I use EMDR as a solution …Read More
    • Let us take care of each other

      In the 1950’s Naomi Shihab wrote : A man crosses the street in the rain, stepping gently, looking two times north and south, because his son is asleep on his shoulder. No car must splash him. No car drive too near to his shadow. This man carries the world’s most …Read More
    • Don’t turn away

      Jeff Brown speaks beautifully about how much easier it is to not stay present to those who are struggling especially if they highlight our own struggle. He writes ‘Those who have suffered the most will be our greatest teachers. It has been so artificial for so long, that we need …Read More
    • Kindness

      As a therapist I use many different ways to support my clients to give voice to their stories. My personal love of poetry allows me to use a creative model that can help open up alternative avenues for conversation. The use of poetry for therapeutic purposes goes back many years …Read More
    • Never, ever give up

      In the pitch-black night, stung by jellyfish, choking on salt water, singing to herself, hallucinating … Diana Nyad just kept on swimming. And that’s how she finally achieved her lifetime goal as an athlete: an extreme 100-mile swim from Cuba to Florida — at age 64. Hear her story.Read More
    • Trauma & Therapy

      I was privileged to be asked to work yesterday with a group who had been directly involved in the recent terrorist attack in Borough Market. With one of my specialities being that of a Trauma Therapist, I am continuously reminded of the resilience of the human spirit and how, sometimes …Read More
    • Understanding Transference In Relationships

      Transference is a dynamic that most couples are unaware of and when I work with couples it is something that we explore that most find useful. explains perfectly how transference plays out in relationships. ‘You’re flicking through a fashion magazine and playfully suggest that your partner might want to …Read More
    • A letter from a father to a son – Ted Hughes to his son Nicholas

      Dear Nick, I hope things are clearing. It did cross my mind, last summer, that you were under strains of an odd sort. I expect, like many another, you’ll spend your life oscillating between fierce relationships that become tunnel traps, and sudden escapes into wide freedom when the whole world …Read More
    • Couples workshop in September 2016

      I am excited to announce that myself and a colleague will be holding a couples workshop on the 17th – 18th September in Richmond, London. This workshop will be non residential and for a maximum of five couples. The purpose of the workshop is to give couples an opportunity to …Read More
    • Shall We Talk?

      In our society fewer and fewer people grow up seeing a strong relationship modelled between their own parents and so it comes as no surprise that it is not because of incompatibility that many marriages break down, but because the couple have no idea what it takes to make their …Read More
    • How motherhood challenges us to let go of control and love unconditionally

      In a Bill Plotkin workshop many years ago, I recall him saying that ” there are two kinds of spiritual practice, one is parenting and the other is everything else!” It took me a while to understand what he meant. But then I got it. As a mum of six …Read More
    • How does your survival suit impact your relationships?

      What I have come to learn from my work with couples is that what often disconnects us is our reactive survival dance. Each of us has learnt a way of protecting ourselves that is rather like putting on a survival suit.  Some of us resemble a turtle by our behaviour …Read More
    • Why don’t more people talk about sex and grief?

      Katrina Taee broaches the topic that so many counsellors/therapists find hard to do – Sex & Grief. She writes :- ‘I think most people would agree that sex appears to be everywhere these days. It’s on book shelves in newsagents, on television, in popular books (think 50 Shades of Grey), …Read More
    • The truth about ‘boarding school syndrome’

      Wendy Leigh writes on the lifelong effect of being sent away from home, aged 10. ‘The nightmares come more often these days, but lose nothing of their intricacy for their increase in frequency. They all begin on a cold morning in 1968, when I am 12 years old and standing …Read More
    • Sometimes picking up the phone to book a first therapy appointment is the hardest part.

      ‘Many of my clients talk about how they had wanted to be in therapy long before making their first appointment. All sorts of things got in the way. Hoping things would magically get better, shame of admitting the need for help, fear of what would be unearthed, concern about what …Read More
    • Dyspareunia – pain during sex – a medical condition that can turn a woman’s sex life to agony.

      I have worked with many women with many different psychosexual issues and found this article interesting :- Relationships can break down due to painful sex Angela Lyons still very much loved her husband of 44 years – but there was one thing missing in their relationship: a sex life. When …Read More
    • What are your thinking patterns?

      In the April edition of Good Therapy there is an interesting article on the 20 Cognitive Distortions and how they affect your life. It reads :- Our circumstances don’t define us. Regardless of what happens in life, we always have the power to choose our attitude. So what’s the difference …Read More
    • One man’s thoughts on hearing the words ‘terminal cancer’.

      A MONTH ago, I felt that I was in good health, even robust health. At 81, I still swim a mile a day. But my luck has run out — a few weeks ago I learned that I have multiple metastases in the liver. Nine years ago it was discovered …Read More
    • How our brains are hardwired for empathy …

      Empathy is the connective tissue of good therapy. It’s what enables us to establish bonds of trust with clients, and to meet them with our hearts as well as our minds. Empathy enhances our insights, sharpens our hunches, and at times seems to allow us to “read” a client’s mind. …Read More
    • Eating disorders are not about food or weight

      An interesting article written by ‘The healing nest’ – While we still have a long way to go in terms of understanding Eating disorders, I believe we have progressed.  Many of us get that “Eating disorders aren’t about food or weight” because it’s the number one phrase that gets shouted …Read More
    • A courageous look at death and the process of dying.

    • No matter who you are or how lonely ………..

    • Some reading for 2015

      The Conditions Of Love – the philosophy of intimacy – John Armstrong. Explores questions such as ‘What does it really mean to love another person?’ ‘How does infatuation differ from the real thing?’ ‘Is there such a thing as the ‘perfect’ partner?’ Out of The Shadows – understanding sexual addiction …Read More
    • How different it will be knowing how to support someone you know who is dying …..

    • Hedy Schleifer – The Power of Connection

      Clinical psychologist and a couple and relationship therapy expert, Hedy Schleifer “crosses the bridge” with TEDxTelAviv audience and brings laughter and passion to the adventure of learning the art of listening.Read More
    • A life that matters in a superficial world

      Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter …Read More
    • Nobody with know you for your secret thought ………

      by Gabriel Garcia Marquez For reasons of health, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Colombia’s illustrious Nobel Laureate for literature, has declared his retirement from public life. He has terminal cancer and sends this letter of farewell to friends and lovers of literature. If God, for a second, forgot what I have become …Read More
    • The Secret To Peace – How not to be offended

      The great challenge of our world is to live a life of contentment, regardless of what other people do, say, think or believe. This article reminds us that every time we get offended, it is actually an opportunity to extend kindness to one who may be suffering, which is not …Read More
    • Building Resilience In A Chaotic World

      Some people are born into this world with a natural and strong vessel of resiliency. Whether due to genetics or a more intangible cause, they are strong in their body and mind right from the start. We all see this with little babies who are no more than a few …Read More
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